Comments on Pens Fatales: Lisa's Work In Progress

Lisa, It wasn't too long ago when I realized I...

2010-01-08T13:08:20.322-08:00

Lisa,
It wasn't too long ago when I realized I had no goals, heck, I barely I had a life outside of the family activities. I had just had one of those life changing situations where I had to take stock and decide what I wanted to do next. Unfortunately I had no clue. I didn't know what I wanted. I could think of a few things I didn't want: To be alone, to be alone with no money, to continue following everyone else's goals. But that doesn't help you figure out what you want. It may seem crazy to others, but I have always been very goal oriented and achieved all of my goals early on. I had the great job and made lots of money, I married and had a boy and a girl. I had the nice home and vacation home. Enough money to be comfortable if we didn't overspend. I never thought past any of that. Do we really need goals in all stages of our lives? Until the day we die? Is that part of our being human? So in the last few years I have actually tried to focus on what I want. It's harder than it looks. And I still haven't came up with anything concrete. Okay, since I want to win the raffle, my resolution this year is to loosen up. I take everything way too seriously(can you tell?). Loosen up on the tennis court, loosen up at home with the family, and especially with friends and acquaintances. Can I do it? I have no idea. I will take it one day at a time.

Tom-- there was actually a lot more to it. I had a...

2010-01-07T08:05:39.251-08:00

Tom--
there was actually a lot more to it. I had a weekly goal sheet that i submitted, we kept track of what I completed, what I didn't and explored why I didn't complete the tasks I'd set out for myself, looking for reasons beyond 'too busy'. her job is to help you figure out why you aren't succeeding in certain areas of your life. I really found her helpful. :)

Mysti--
thanks to you for being a faithful reader... love seeing your comments!

Lisa

Lisa, that's a great way of putting it! If you...

2010-01-05T14:42:30.666-08:00

Lisa, that's a great way of putting it! If you don't have a plan/map, it's much harder to find your way to your goal...

Sophie -- love the Yes!!!

I used to hate lists, but now I'm too old and can't trust my memory (or maybe it's just so full of movie trivia that nothing else fits?).

Guess it is time to start writing things down :)

Thank you to all the Pens Fatales for an inspiring 2009 and a fabulous 2010!!!!

Mysti

Of course now that you've explained what a li...

2010-01-05T10:11:42.047-08:00

Of course now that you've explained what a life coach does, and the advice they would give us, we don't really need to go see one. We just need to make lists, which is one of my favorite things to do. and it's free! and I love free.

By the way did you call her (your life coach) "coach"? and did she refer to you by last name only? I'd like to think so, and it really fits in with the goals theme.

I love goals... My goal is to get through today an...

2010-01-05T09:50:43.494-08:00

I love goals... My goal is to get through today and figure out what the hell I'm going to do with this scene! :)

Shelby--isn't great that different things work...

2010-01-05T08:26:03.009-08:00

Shelby--isn't great that different things work for different people? :)

Sophie--you and champagne-really? *snicker*

Goals are so much better because they are a "...

2010-01-05T08:16:06.205-08:00

Goals are so much better because they are a "yes" rather than a "no" - more of this rather than less of that. And keeping a revolving list does help, to my great surprise. I started keeping one on mac calendar and was amazed to see that eventually i generally *do* get everythign done - just never as quickly as I first think i will.

Right there with ya on the champagne conundrum....

I like the intentions.. resolutions are too restri...

2010-01-05T05:20:19.820-08:00

I like the intentions.. resolutions are too restrictive and depressing.