Tuesday, February 9, 2010


When Lala and I got married, we did it on the cheap, as we do most things. Our friends provided the food for the wedding, and people pooled their photos for our album. But a few weeks before the big day, we still hadn't come up with the funds for rings, and we were just going to go somewhere and buy cheap bands -- we weren't too concerned.

I was talking to my mother about this, and she protested, "Oh, no, I have a envelope of old family rings, I'll send it to you and you can choose two you like."

I was moved by this, as was Lala, and when we got the envelope, we tried on all the bands at our dining room table. Each was marked with a little flag of paper with a name. The one I loved the most was marked Wilson, and Lala's was labeled Ashcroft.

I couldn't quite work out who the rings had belonged to, so I called Mom. She laughed and said they'd both belonged to her mother. I'd chosen her mother's second wedding ring -- the one she'd worn when she'd married George, the man I'd always known as Grandpa. But Lala had chosen the ring Grandma had worn when she'd married my mother's father. The widow's ring.

Lala's first wife died of cancer. Lala is a widow.

So now we both wear the same woman's rings, rings of love, rings that symbolized happy marriages. And Lala wears the widow's ring.


Sophie Littlefield said...

oh. sniffle. that's all I have to say. sighhhh.

L.G.C. Smith said...

You made me cry! First Sophie's beautiful snapshot, now this. All I've got to say it that it's a good thing I don't wear mascara at home.

Unknown said...

beautiful & sweet.

Juliet Blackwell said...

Okay, great...now I have to come up with something to follow those two great posts??? Aargh. Wish I knew a writer who could do it for me...;-)
BTW, that photo of your two hands made me think of a close-up on the carved marble hands of a madonna, someplace in Florence. Lovely.

Liz said...

sniff sniff sniff! beautiful.

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