Tuesday, February 16, 2010

love's romance

how do i define this topic? how do i transcend the beautiful relationships that have already been depicted at pens fatales? I can't. Frankly, I'm not crazy about Valentine's Day. It annoys me that one day a year, men and women are supposed to honor something that should take precedence all year long.

i believe in romance. i believe in the power of love to transcend other boundaries.

but, you may be cynical. you may nay say. and that is your right. however, i believe that if you believe in the power of love, your life will be better, richer, and happier.

all i can do is offer my own examples and hope that you are open to my interpretation of romance:

romance is not giving a dozen roses on february 14th, it's impromptu delivery when life has thrown a curve ball, and you are down in the dumps.

romance is traveling thru a blizzard to buy a torchiere (that while beautiful was outside of a budget) to be waiting in the living room when you get home from a business trip!

love is refusing to let others take care of your spouse when she is beyond reasoning and really cannot function without care.

romance is picking up take out when life has totally kicked you in the butt and/or cooking dinner, even deciding what to cook for dinner, is beyond your capability.

love is spending four hours at the mall when all you want is to sit in front of the t.v.

love is taking out the garbage when you are tired but your loved one is exhausted.

i know that there are many other examples that i should be defining, but my husband is sick and all i can do is worry and plan how i can make his life easier. because ....
love is defined in all the little things. Anyone can be thoughtful one day a year, but for me, the true definition of love is a partner who cares for you, who tends to your needs and who looks out for you all year long....

6 comments:

camille@minichino.com said...

Lisa, it was nice to see you at RWA on Saturday. I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. I hope things will get better.

Lisa Hughey said...

Camille-
it was so nice to see you too. He will be fine. I just am a worrier :) And of course because I have an active imagination, I can come up with all sorts of worst case scenarios. :)

Lisa Hughey said...

I've gotten a few emails today from people worried about me, so i'll clarify. My grandparents, both sets, had beautiful relationships. my grandfather cared for my grandmother for years thru every stage of dementia. my other grandpa was the most patient man on the planet. he would bring a book to whatever store my grandma was patronizing and just plop down and read until she was done (which took a really, really long time) :) it's those every day things that are romantic to me, although I certainly don't tell my husband to get rid of them if he brings me flowers on valentine's day :) :)

Tom Neely said...

My buddies at work are constantly gagging because when they ask me "what's new?", a lot of the time, I tell them about the latest loving/romantic thing I've dreamed up to do for my adorable wife. To me the whole point of being in a love relationship is to keep feeding those romantic flames with flowers, or text messages, or a day at the spa away from the kids and managerial duties, on very regular basis.

Valentine's day is nice for love and romance but a random Thursday is even better. :^)

Adrienne Miller said...

Lisa, this post is so beautiful. I got all teary reading it, cause I totally agree. Love is an action not a feeling. There's this line from the movie The Last Kiss (the movie is only ok, but the line is brilliant) though you'll have to pardon the cursing.

"Stop talking about love. Every a**hole in the world says he loves somebody. It means nothing. It still doesn't mean anything. What you feel only matters to you. It's what you do to the people you say you love, that's what matters. It's the only thing that counts. "

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